Is 11 too old to be a flower girl?
I think 11 is too old, you could however make her a Jr. Bridesmaid
Reply:I agree with a lot of the people above; they should BOTH be Jr. bridesmaids. You don't have to have a flower girl, unless it REALLY matters to you. But, I am having 3 jr.s bridesmaids ranging in ages; 13, 8, and 6. They are wearing all the same dresses, but different dresses from the bridesmaids. Now, if you have already had the 9 year old get her flowergirl dress and all, then have the 11 year old wear something else and call her a jr. bridesmaid.
Reply:the 11 year old will probably think she s too old to be a flower girl too. i know i would if i was 11 again. I think you could ask the 11 year old to be the "bible holder" which isnt exactly a real job in a wedding but i was the bible holder at 10 and i was completely happy. they just walk up with the flower girl and hold the bible low in their hands and hold it throughout the ceremony. that way the 9 year old can throw flowers! congrats on the wedding! ; D
Reply:Could you let the 11 year old stand with the bridesmaids? If not, I don't think 11 is too old. Remember that your wedding is about bringing 2 families together and not about rules and traditions set by others. So if you can't find something else special for her to do iin the wedding, let her be a flowergirl. It will be something she will remember forever.
Reply:I have seen a 14 year old being a flower girl...it works, alittle different- but it works for the bride and groom. That is all that should matter.
It is your wedding...you can do whatever you want (:
Weddings are really becoming less traditional, so most people will not care.
You can also make the 11 yr old a junior bridesmaid?
It is really up to you- and what will make you happy!
It's your big day!
Good luck and enjoy your special day! (:
Reply:This is your day! Just remember that! You do what you want, %26amp; don't worry about what everyone else thinks. They will get over the issues eventually. If you think the 11 year old is too old, have her light candles or something. You can fit her in somewhere. Enjoy planning your special day %26amp; calm down, relax, have fun!
Reply:When I was 10 and my sister was 13, we were junior bridesmaids in my cousin's wedding. She didn't even have a flower girl! It was the first wedding I was ever a part of, and I thought it was very fun and 'special.'
But it's YOUR wedding, do what makes YOU happy!
Reply:This is your wedding! Plan it however you want! I learned something while planning my wedding, I could not make everyone happy, so in the end, I made myself happy and did what I wanted to do. The family will get over it, if not then they are very childish!
Reply:You are never to old to be a flower girl or any other selected part in a wedding. It is your wedding plan it as you want it to be. You only have this happen to you once and should be as special as possible.
Reply:I think that it's your wedding and there is no rule as to the age of the flower girl. Do whatever you want to.
Reply:Nope! I'd ask both of them too. Little girl's ego's are so fragile and if their mother is willing to pay for both little girl's dresses, and hairpieces/shoes, baskets, etc... I say go for it!
Reply:No, it's not too old at all!
Couples just have been having flower girls who are younger and younger - such as a two year old, which makes no sense.
The two of them will look great together!
Reply:Personally, I think 11 and 9 yrs old is too old to be a flowergirl. What about making them junior bridesmaids?
Reply:Why not make her a Jr. bridal maid
Reply:If you make the Flower Girl role something very lovely and mature, it won't be as wierd as "Aww, look at the cute little flowergirls!"
In this case, having the girls both wear junior bridesmaid dresses (Because having them in big white dresses with flower crowns would look silly on two pre-teens), and have them either carry a small bouquet or even just casually dropping petals (put the petals in a purse-style bag, because again, baskets would be way too child-like), and have them both walk up the aisle side-by-side before you, and it will be fine.
It's an easy fix that will appease everyone, and still look charming.
Good luck!
Reply:First let me say that you sound intelligent and thoughtful, so I'm sure you'll come to the best resolution for this situation That said, I believe you have to clarify the issue, make a decision regarding which issue concerns you most; the age of a flower girl vs interference from family (two very different thoughts). I don't doubt that both are concerning you, but it will surely muddy the waters if you use them both as reason for your decision. Do you follow me?
I personally believe that flower girl(s) or "junior bridesmaid(s)" can be any young individual (no age barriers); however that is the lesser issue.
First, you must first come to grips with:
1. the depth of your feelings about this intrusion in your wedding plans
2. the ramifications of your decision
3. your anticipated comfort level with the ultimate decision
Questions to ask yourself
1. Are you able to make this decision in tandem with your fiance?
2. Will you respect his opinions?
3. How important is the day vs setting a standard for boundaries with family prior to the wedding?
No one, can make this decision for you. I feel your pain as do so many who have been in this perdicament. I send you positive evergy for a thoughful and kind resolution.
Reply:let me tell you... i am dealing with the same type of issues from my fiance's side, his mother mostly. i have come to realize you cannot please everyone. you have to do what makes you happy %26amp; your fiance of course. 9 %26amp; 11 may be too old for flower girls. how about maybe including them by having them bring up the offerings, if this is a church wedding. of handing out programs if you are having them. there are other ways to include people in your wedding. you have to do what makes you happy, if not then everyone else is happy but you. this is yours %26amp; your fiances wedding but it is after all your day.
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