How many flower girls is too many?

I'm a Sunday School teacher and I'm very close to my kids. Most of my students are my friend's children. I love them all. It's a small church where everyone knows everyone. I feel like I can't choose just one or two to be my flower girls. My question is, is 10 flower girls/ring bearers too many? It'll almost look ridiculous... but they are very special and dear to me... and I'd like to have them incorporated in some way. My idea is to have them all walk down the isle and take their place at the altar and sing a song to dedicate to the groom and I and then take a seat in the front row.



A part of me is thinking this is fine since it is MY wedding. But another thought in the back of my mind thinks that it's a bit odd. My mom says it's really cute... and a few of the moms agree that it's a nice idea. What do you think? Have you seen something like this before?

How many flower girls is too many?
Hi and congratulations!



Oh my....how cute! That is a great idea! And, may I say, very thoughtful.



I am assuming this would be done PRIOR to you walking down the aisle? I have two suggestions.



(1) They could all walk down say as a group 2 by 2, but not necessarily spaced as far apart as when the bridesmaids/groomsmen walk down. You could practice with them lots beforehand!!



(2) They could go right to the altar as you have said, sing their song, and then sit with THEIR PARENTS....not in the first row. I think you should have the first row (as tradition) reserved for the bride's parents and groom's parents. You don't want a bunch of fidgety kids sitting right in the front.



Good luck and is all sounds beautiful!
Reply:It's your wedding - you can have as many flower girls as you want. 10 flower girls sounds pretty good to me. I'm sure it will look lovely. :-)
Reply:The only concern I would have over it, is not that 10 is too many, but that the families will have to buy each child an outfit. If their clothing is kept reasonably priced, then I see no problem with it. Just realize that these kids parents all have different ideas of what an "expensive" dress is. I would think the hardest thing would be picking clothing that everyone would agree on.



I think the general idea though, is absolutely wonderful. It IS your wedding, if you want 10 ringbearers/flower girls, then have them. I think it's a great way to demonstrate what these kids mean to you, and I'm sure they'll never forget it either!
Reply:More than one is too many. One flower girl, one ring bearer.

I was teaching when I got married, so I had lots of cute grade 2 and 3 kids I was close to. They helped throw a shower for me, and were 'hosts'. Very cute. Only invited some of the families to the wedding.
Reply:At first I was going to say NO, till I read your post.. Pick them all, have them all doing down the aisle throwing flowers. I think it's the cutest thing. GO FOR IT!
Reply:That sounds so cute!

I say go for it! It IS your wedding.

and its your choice

but keep in mind 10 kids at a wedding can get a bit antseee
Reply:I think I would have them do exactly as you want, but not as flower girls and ring bearers. That would be strange.



Have them all wear coordinating outfits (all white or black bottom white tops?) and give them all a flower to hold then you could either have them all line up at the altar to sing, or you could have them be an 'honor guard' and line up along the aisle and hand you the flowers as you walk down it, while they sing to you. Either way it's sure to be a touching sight.
Reply:Aw, pick them all!!!



Good luck :)
Reply:who cares what others think if you want to have them in it do it my sister got married in june and had her entire ccd class of 18 be flower girls and ring bearers it was nice they all wore there first comunion out fits again and it was so adorable if you do plan to do that make sure you take a special photo with them my sister did and it was so adorable it is of her on the floor and them all around her some laying on her dress sitting around and her reading a childrens bible book to them and it makes for a good keepsake for the kids if you are able to give them a photo framed
Reply:In a case like this, you have to go with all or none. Otherwise, the ones not chosen will be upset that Ms. Chan favors so and so and not them. I think you need to choose from one of the following options:



1. Choose all, the way you said.

2. Choose all to participate in the wedding: sing the song, read a poem, etc., but don't have them walk down the aisle as flower girls and ring bearers.

3. Choose someone else, such as a niece and/or nephew.

4. Have no flower girls or ring bearers. (Many weddings don't have them.)



If you absolutely want to incorporate these children into the wedding, I think either option 1 or 2 would work out fine.
Reply:I think it is a cute idea too! Not only is it your wedding, it is very unique and also a great way of showing how much these children mean to you. Besides, they wouldnt just be your flower girls, they would be the cutest choir ever! Imagine how special you will make each one of them feel by including them in your special day!
Reply:Yes, 10 is too many. I think 2 flower girls and one ring bearer is enough.



Personally, I'm having one of each.
Reply:Yes I think it will look rediculous and people will think it is odd. But if they are all special to you and you want them all, then do so. It is your wedding and you will be honouring these little people that mean something to you.

Choosing just one or two will mean hurt feelings.

I say go for it.

Who cares what it will look like, you will be making all these little dudes day.
Reply:One time I saw a really cool idea. This woman had a bunch of nieces and her close friends had a bunch of girls too. So what she did is had all of the girls wearing different ivory dresses with matching sashes and beautiful flowers in their hair, and they were her bell girls. Basically she had them walk the aisle ringing bells to announce that the ceremony was starting, and everyone proceeded in after them.

I thought it was really cute, and a good idea for someone who wanted that many little girls to participate in their ceremony. Anyway, it's another idea. Good luck and Congratulations!!!