Flower girl/Jr Bridesmaid at rehearsal dinner? Help Please?

My 6 year old daughter is the Jr. Bridesmaid at my cous wedding this coming Saturday. My brother is a groomsman and my sister is a bridesmaid. I am close to this cous and parents-we were next door neighbors growing up. Anyhow they sent us an invite to the dinner after the reheasal. My fiance and I are wondering if its just for her or am I to assume for the 3 of us? Is it proper for us to be invited or should I just drop her off with my sister? Also for the wedding the next day do I have to hang around during all of the getting ready/hair/dressing/pictures or is it ok to leave her with my sister to help get her ready? I really don't want to tag along since I have no major part in the wedding. The bride has no opnion either way.

Flower girl/Jr Bridesmaid at rehearsal dinner? Help Please?
The invitation for the rehearsal dinner is for you, your daughter and your fiance. At my daughter's wedding rehearsal dinner (April 2007), the parents of all the children in the wedding were invited to the dinner. We would not have wanted the children there without their parents!



As for the wedding day, if your sister is willing to be there constantly for your daughter, then that's all right, but if she can't, then you need to be there. Ahhhh, the things we do for family and our children!
Reply:Call the bride and ask her if you two are supposed to come to the rehearsal and dinner, or just your daughter.



As for the wedding, you need to be with your daughter. I would imagine your daughter doesn't have to be there for everyone else getting ready/hair/dressing, but you will need your daughter to be ready to go when the pictures start. Your sister will have enough to do getting herself ready and being there for the bride.



Your only other alternative is to ask your sister is she wants to take care of your daughter prior to the wedding, see what she says. Maybe she won't care.
Reply:yOU CAN ASK YOUR COUSIN IT IS OKAY TO DO THAT. SHE WOULD APPRECIATE IT RATHER THAN JUST ASSUMING. YOU CAN ASK YOUR SISTER TO TAKE CARE OF YOUR DAUGHTER BEFORE THE WEDDING. YOU CAN ALSO HAVE YOUR DAUGHTER STAY WITH YOU FOR ALL THE PREPERATIONS AND MEET THEM FOR THE PICTURES. I WOULD JUST ASK YOUR COUSIN WHAT SHE WOULD LIKE YOU TO DO.
Reply:You attend the rehearsal party with your child - it is assumed. For the wedding day, you need to talk with the bride about how she wants things to work. I would think you would want to be there to get your daughter ready before the ceremony, but she should be old enough to be left with the wedding party for the photographs and then on to the reception.
Reply:For the rehearsal dinner I would assume all 3 of you are invited. A 6 yr old girl can't go to dinner by herself.



As for the wedding day you should hang out with your daughter.



As well-behaved as your daughter is, its unfair to have her tag along with your sister for both events. Your sister will be busy getting ready, might want to relax, etc and she might not be able to if your daughter is there as her responsibility. You should accompany her.
Reply:As for the rehersal dinner since your daughter is a minor then you and your husband are invited so that you can care for your daughter. As for the big day, since she is so young I would find out what time the bride will be starting pictures of just her and the birdesmaids and drop your daughter off about 20-30 minutes before that starts. Unless she is going with all of the other bridesmaids to get her hair done.



If you are doing her hair then the 20 mintues or so early for pictures is fine. Let her put her dress on there with the other girls so that she is part of the "getting ready party" and then your sister take over and direct her until after the wedding. With all the the pictures and helping the bride they will be able to keep her busy until the wedding. Just keep your cell phone on vibrate and have someone call if your sister or daughter needs you.
Reply:I have never heard of sending invitations for a rehearsal dinner...normally the nite of the rehearsal, it is assumed that the bride and grooms family host a dinner afterwards for the bridal party. Only the bridal party is expected to attend, and the family should have already made arrangements for the bridal party to car pool in order to accomodate everyone getting there. Following the dinner, the party member (if need be) can call for a ride home. Other than that, Ive never heard of it being done any other way.
Reply:Ask if your daughter is invited too, or not. I think it would be nice to include her, at least for the food. Make her feel a part of things.

The day of the wedding, if your sister is willing to look after the little girl before the ceremony, that's fine. If she's not happy about that, then you do it.
Reply:If the bride has no opinion I would go to the rehersal dinner. Your child won't see Aunt Somebody as Mommy so might misbehave and you need to watch her during the actual rehersal so your sister and brother can concentrate on what THEY are supposed to be doing as well. Lets face it, when the cat's away the mouse will play. I know I did when I was that age. The actual rehersal might be kind of boring for you but going and tending to your daughter is the nice thing to do in that situation and who doesn't want a chance to enjoy a nice meal with close family before the hecticness of the wedding day?



As for before the wedding, its fine to drop her off with the bridal party before going to help your cousin get ready for the big day. Just make sure that she is ready to go and in her dress and give her a little purse or tote bag with a few toys to keep occupied. (Not her favorites in case it gets left for some reason but something she enjoys) Some kids tend to throw fits when it comes time to put it on and the bridesmaids will be busy getting ready. They will help make sure she doesn't get anything on it though. Of course ask them and make sure there are no objections but I can't imagine why there would be.
Reply:Have your sister take her, or ask your cousin if she would like you and your fiance to come.
Reply:everyone who is involed with the wedding and their close family goes to the rehearsal dinner at least thats what my family does



do i would go with her its not like they are gonna say get the hell out