Flower Girl Question...?

I really want my cousin's daughter, Georgina, to be the flower girl at my wedding in July 2008. She is about the same age as my ring bearer and very beautiful, and the only little girl I know anyway! However, her mother is no longer with my cousin and doesn't treat him well... sometimes she won't even let him see Georgina on days he is supposed to. Since she has custody of Georgina I know that I will have to ask her if she will let Georgina be a part of my day. I know my cousin would have no problem with that. The thing is, I don't think she will let me because I'm not sure she likes me or any of my family just because we are related to my cousin. And since she's not invited, she might not let me. How should I ask her? And when? I thought about waiting until a few months before the wedding so hopefully she won't say yes and then change her mind. I also thought about asking my aunt, who is Georgina's grandma, who gets along well with the mother. Please tell me what you would do!

Flower Girl Question...?
Talk to your aunt, Georgina's grandma, first to see what she thinks. If she thinks it might work, go for it. However, you'll probably have to invite the mother. Most parents won't let their child participate in a wedding they won't be attending. I know this will be hard, but it's probably the only shot you have at getting her to let Georgina be your flower girl. Unless you get lucky and she lets your cousin or aunt bring Georgina. Keep your fingers crossed and get your aunt's opinion first. Good luck!
Reply:You can ask but even if she says yes be prepared for disappoint later. My husband's ex said we could have their girls in our wedding and then when my husband went to pick them up (on our wedding day) she said she changed her mind and refused to let the girls come. I also had my niece for a flower girl so atlest we still had one, but we spent about $200 on dresses, shoes, baskets, and even had planned a special part in the ceremony fo the girls to take part in. It was really upsetting when I got to the ceremony site and discovered the girls would not be a part of our big day.
Reply:I would definitly have youe aunt run it buy her see what reaction she has and if she seems ok with it ask her herself. Good luck and have a wonderful wedding!
Reply:If its going to be that big of a problem, ask someone else. You need the least amount of drama that day and this sounds like its just going to add to the pile. You can ask her, if the mother says no...don't push it..just find someone else.
Reply:invite the mother and the grandma and make it a family day if you want the child not fair to exclude them and then want them to co operate
Reply:you should go ahead and ask her so if she does say no you can search for someone else. even if she does say yes, you may still have to worry that she will back out at the last minut since she is being that way with your cousin. I would suggest trying to find someone else. sorry:(
Reply:i think that you should just find another kid.....because chances with that one is like way slim.........and you probably have another cousin, friend or any othe close neighbor that is just as cute. Plus that might irritate you cousin. Cause you would have to invite her mother.
Reply:ask her and its not bad to invite her too it will not be less or more if shes invited maybe she will say yes.. good luck and congratulations..